Boundaries are part of a good life. Sometimes people don't take time for themselves because they are always doing what others like.
For me is difficult sometimes saying no to people. And that's one of my biggest problem. When I sacrifice myself in order to do something that likes other person, some times I feel that I can not say no. But I feel awful when asking for something to somebody and the person whom I am requesting at, says No.
Every day, life teaches us important aspects of it. One of them, is learning how to say no. Even to people you love some time. It' s hard at the beginning but after a while, you will feel fine. Believe me, if you say yes, you will feel worse that if you say no once in while.
So, I have been asking myself, how can I learn saying No? ... And I guess, maybe doing what follows I can start learning.
- Make plans: Part of saying yes, to the options that other person proposes, is that I don't make any other plan. So, planning may help my calendar.
- I'm first: this is what I will think inside my mind at the time of taking a decision.
- Ask myself, Is this part of the things that I would like to do?
Finally, I consider those three steps are enough to start. I will put them in practice and later on, I will write about how is it going.
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